Posted by BB Harding, contributor to the Women Move It Forward Blog
I have a friend who is The Personal Pause Ambassador. Chris frequently focuses people on the power of taking a pause and honoring the moment. She provides gentle reminders to release the need to drive and push to the finish line.
There is wisdom in this strategy, as research is beginning to substantiate that a person who minimizes stress leads a better life. They are healthier, able to make more sound decisions, and are more productive.
So, how does one recognize that it is time to push the hold button? For the type A personality, for which I have been inducted into the “Type A” Hall of Fame, it can be difficult. The mind says things like “I can’t stop now, just a little longer, and I will be done.” Never mind that there seems to be these little things that go wrong, and suddenly, it is a LOT longer than I thought. Changes in emotional state are certainly one key clue. If I were paying attention as I got frustrated, angry, tired, irritated I would surely see that there is an incoming message from the Universe – “hey you, take a break.” Says me – “Break??! You mean like stop?” Universe – “Yes, like stop.” Says me – “ohhhh.”
So, emotional state would be one way, what are other ways that the universe talks to me? I’m trying to get a project done, and even though I’m working on being conscious and taking deep breaths, it seems like there is delay after delay; things that don’t quite go right. I’m doing my best to get things to fall into place and they just aren’t. Universe: “Hey you. This isn’t the time.” Me: “Ohhhh.” So, lack of flow is another indicator.
I’ve noticed lately that I have been having a very interesting relationship with time. Normally, I have no issue with things like scheduling events onto my calendar and translating time zones. Unlike many of my friends, I am clear that ET is 2 hours ahead of me and PT is an hour behind me. Suddenly I’m like a deer in the headlights when confronted with the idea of a different time zone; not to mention that appointments are getting onto the wrong day or for the wrong time, and then I am faced with that embarrassing moment of “OOOPS.” (very good for the ego, btw)
I have also notice that the energy seems to be dropping away around getting things done in general. Just don’t seem to have the inclination to do much of anything. I also notice that I don’t seem to be the only one who is experiencing this phenomena. Universe: “Hey, you, how about just BE-ing for a while?” Me: “BE-ing? How do you DO that?” [At this point, I’d like to share a story. In one of my recent classes, it comes up that the next thing for one of the participants is to spend some time BE-ing and she starts to make a list of tasks. One of the other participants begins to chuckle. The first one asks “why are you chuckling?” and the second one responds, “I find it amusing that you are making a TO DO list for BE-ing.”]
You may have noticed that I have inserted a little humor along the way. At the same time, there really does seem to me a message from the universe that it is time to just BE. That it is time to put aside the need to push, drive, get things done. Time to allow the many limiting beliefs about being worthy of support to fall away. Today, many thought leaders on how to create the life of your dreams are placing the emphasis on creating the heart resonance that is necessary to create what it is that you want. That your state of BE-ing is the key ingredient in doing that. Much of this is rooted in The Secret that came out a few years ago. I confess, that I did not see The Secret – just never called to me to do so. At the same time, being worthy of support by the Universe, in my mind, dates back a very long time. I recall that there was a bible verse that went something like “Look at the birds of the air, for they neither sow nor reap yet they are provided for; see the lilies of the field, how they grow: they neither toil nor spin; and yet I say to you that even Solomon in all his glory was not arrayed like one of these.” This is a thought that I have reflected upon many a time, never quite surrendering to the notion that I could just BE me, and that would be enough. Somehow, the plaintive whine was right there, “but what will I DO while I’m BEing?” “How will I make a living, feed the family, buy the things I need or want if I am DOING nothing?” An intriguing notion to grasp that BE-ing is enough. There is nothing that I need to DO. That I really can hit the pause button.
Universe to YOU: “Take a break and BE! That is enough, and I love you as you are, you bright light.”