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Devolution

08 Monday Apr 2019

Posted by Through the Horse in #EGCM, #EGCMethod, balance, Personal Growth, Relationships, Transitions

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Our lives are full of transitions and ever-changing.  People move in and out of our lives.  Jobs change and shift.  Our health changes.  Here in Wyoming our weather changes ubruptly within hours and minutes.

Some changes are minor and we move through them quickly with barely a ripple.  We may not even take note of them.  Others are momentous, ugly, devastating. Others are momentous and joyous.

Some people handle change with ease,  others do not.  Whether it’s their temperament, their astrological sign or the baggage they carry,  the “why” isn’t important.  A self awareness surrounding how change affects you is what is truly important. It’s important for you to share that awareness with others as well.

Recently,  my husband and I were having a lovely lunch and he mentioned that he was actually looking forward to riding and doing horse stuff with me.  That statement was quickly followed by an awareness and statement that he was “devolving”. I wasn’t even sure that was word. It is, I looked it up, however, he didn’t really use it correctly.  I got his meaning regardless. We had a good laugh about it and a wonderful discussion ensued. I argued that he wasn’t “devolving”  but rather “evolving “. He was moving away from barbaric,  cave man grunting activities such as MMA and grappling towards much more refined equestrian activities. This discussion was quite animated as we bantered back and forth.  I’m sure the other patron enjoyed our interaction.

But truly our relationship is evolving.  All of our children are married and out of the house. We are shifting roles,  finding balance and sometimes just trying to figure it out one moment at a time. Communication has been key.  Laughter is necessary and healing.

Some folks might think devolution is a negative thing but in this case I welcome my hubby’s devolution.  I look forward to riding off into the sunset with my ever “devolving” husband!

Happy Trails!

Michelle

2018 The year of Possibilities and Promise

07 Sunday Jan 2018

Posted by Wayfinding With Horses in #EGCM, balance, Coaching, Health, Self-Care

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Blog post contributed by Barbara B.

2018 seems to be starting like so many years in the past. We are asked to change our outward appearance in order to find  happiness and joy. Already the coupons for “slim” dinners, diet pills and discounts for health spas are filling the mailboxes. If you look great on the outside, than all is well with the world, is the promise.  I don’t know about you, but these schemes have never worked for me. To me, these quick fixes are temporary, limiting and not fulfilling. How often do we work on our outside only to find it is not in alignment with our inner truth?

Early in the morning on the 1st , I sat with pen and paper (i.e. computer) in hand, like many of you, and reviewed 2017. I did this so I can start with a fresh paper for 2018, with as little or no baggage as possible. I jotted down what I started, completed, accomplished and wished I had done.  I stepped backed and took a look. Hmmm… yes there was a lot done and a number of things left undone. But did I feel like I was in a better place? Were my finances better off? Was my spirit a testament to all I read and cherished this last year? Was my home a refuge or sanctuary? Did I care for friends and family with compassion and warmth? Was I wiser? Healthier? Happier? Were others better off by my encounter with them? Was life simpler or more complicated? Did I use my hours and days well? I had so many questions, I had to stop. To simplify, I decided to first check into my mind, body, heart, spirit and hear what my inner compass had to say. The other questions could be answered later. So for now…

I checked into my mind?

Wow I did more than I thought. I planned and completed a number of items. I visited my family, traveled to see a solar eclipse, read  listened to audio books using Libby and RB Digital Library App. I held self help clinics, I learned about my heritage and the book of Runes. I helped others understand their Charka energy. I was certified on a curriculum on how to work better with youth. I set up classes and worked with the local youth and older teens helping them find their own power. I helped women better understand themselves and their horses while improving their connection and understanding. I stepped out and taught Qigong and brought Lincoln, my poodle for visits to aid residents of extended living facilities. I felt good, but knew I could have done more, used my time more wisely and maybe be a bit more focused.

This 2018 I will feed my mind with more positive ideas so I can help it do the work I am met to do. I need a mind that is open, less judgmental and more willing to listen and observe. What does my mind need? I asked it and it said “I would like more rest, be happy with results, not flitter about so much and please feed and care for me as well as I do the horses.” It wants to be able to meet my demands without stress and maximize it’s potential so we can be healthy and happy together.

I checked into my body?

This past year I dedicated more time to practicing Qigong, Yoga, meditation and general wellness. I am very happy with the added flexibility, the cleansing I receive from deep breathing and am more aware of how my body. I can feel the difference when I kayak as my motion and limberness improves. I purchased a new bike and rode it more frequently. The horses and I played on a more regular bases and I ran with them to expand my lungs and leg strength.I really feel a difference and take note how I feel when I become lazy and eat lower octane or sugar laden diet.

This 2018 I will take even better care of my body so I can better serve others. I need it to be stronger, leaner and balanced to radiate light. OK body what do you want, I asked? It almost screamed at me. You know what I need? Just follow thru and do it! Take off the burden of weight so I can move more freely and be lighter on my feet. So I promise, I will not only listen but I will do as it needs. I will continue to be selective about the food I take in and drink 10-12 glasses plenty of water. I will strengthen my body so I can feel my muscles rejoice and not feel them complain when over exerted. I look forward to my body being well so my heart and spirit can soar. This will also help my mind to be clear. I will purchase a “fit” watch so I can monitor my progress and not guess as it. This will help me be honest with me and my body.

I checked into my heart?

I’ve had a tough year holding onto what I cherish. My family has been torn by illness and my dream of a successful business has been altered. Throughout last year,I felt love flowing through my fingers like grains of sand. I so wanted to pause so I could sculpt and shape a masterpiece of love. Something I could hold onto. I know love is never lost, it just resides in a different place and I must find that place. I think back on 2017 and remember wonderful times with my sisters, friends and of course the horses. The times I rode and saw the light flicker through the trees or kayaked down a fog laden river made my heart soar. I also saw smiles and bright eyes shining back at me while teaching which fills my heart with graditude. I have abundance in my heart along with aching.

So I asked my heart, what do you need in 2018? My heart says “I am uneasy. I am not prepared to go another year in the same frozen framework it had been pressed into. To let go is to be free. I want freedom to love and be, not be caged. When I am broke, please take the time to honor it? I may not fill up all the voids may stay with me and concentrate on the parts that are working well, my joy and wonder of it all”  OK I say. I will give more of my time and endeavors so others can experience the joy of being and living. My inner compass will take precedence even while in a fog. Soaring is how we will work on being free and finding joy.

I checked into my spirit?

This year my connection to a higher power, a God and Spirit has grown tenfold. I am honored and humbled to a part of this incredible universe. My spirit has encompassed not only this world but outer dimensions which are limitless, just as universal Love and Kindness.

So spirit what is it you want for us? “I choose to soar and be light for others”,  it responds. This 2018 I look forward to sharing the spirit of community with others and connect to the awesome power of oneness. We are all made of atoms and space and the glue of our humanist being is love and compassion. This is how Spirit and I will transform 2018, by reaching out to others and sharing love, light and wholeness.

How is your 2018 going? What does your mind, body, heart and spirit need to fully resonate with your purpose? Check into your inner compass and listen. Make this year the year of possibilities and promise.

 

 

Barbara is trained in the Equine Gestalt Coaching Method, a retired Professional Engineer and Qi Gong Instructor but mostly she is a woman passionate about horses and sharing their gift of spirit with others. Throughout her life the horses have demonstrated to her how to align her inner compass and become more aware, balanced and joyful. Wayfinding With Horses, LLC, offers women an experiential process where by choosing to move forward, heal and fully engage with life their present indeed becomes a “Gift. Barbara lives with her husband, dogs, cats, horses and cows at Wayfinding Farm, located near Ocala Florida.  For more information about EGCMethod® coaching contact Barbara at Wayfindingwithhorses.com (WWH.biz). Wayfinding With Horses- I invite you to find the wild and wonderful within.

Aging Woman

24 Monday Jul 2017

Posted by Wayfinding With Horses in #EGCM, Health, Personal Growth

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Aging Women posted by Barbara B. a co-writier of the Women Move it Forward Blog

I am an aging woman

Old enough to hear wisdom’s voice

Young of heart but not mind or body

Seen by some, invisible to many

Smiling, caring, with spirit strong

 

I am an aging woman

Time stacked up on a shelf

My cover tattered and stained

Bindings stiff and some broken

Holding words and visions that ring true

 

I am an aging woman

With apron strings long untied

Yearning for love’s lost, a secret touch

And for frayed family ties to be restrung

Walking alone amongst family and strangers
 

I am an aging woman

I tend to my garden of love

Yielding silver and golden moments to share 

Entrusting and giving to those in need,

A lift to an ailing spirit or hope to a tattered heart

 

I am an aging woman

Hope wells up eternal

From the depths of ancient roots

Joy springs forth from the simplest of gestures

The presence is my present, the gift of now

 

     As I become chronological older the outer things, the items that consumed my time, heart and money seem less important. I still buy new clothes or go to the movies but I often find the “going” does not give me as much self-satisfaction as the “doing”. Just as my old shirt calls to be worn more than something new, not because of it’s style but because of where we have been together, what we have shared and how it knows me so well.

     I find myself going back to books with words written that nurture my spirit and soul. Wallowing in and observing the recurring tale of human tragedy does not bring me delight. The caring for and reaching out to others in the here and now is what I am learning as important. Finding abundance in the present, and working at perfecting the “Wow in Now” is my challenge. It is a treasure-trove we all have received, perfect in so many ways.

The more I observe, savor, and give thanks for, the more beauty, serenity and laughter fills my moments. Whether it is watching a young hummingbird drink nectar from a aloe bloom in the garden or a 10 year old scampering to gather lizards for his new “Gecko Farm”. The “giving” of my time at the library to help a youngster read or understand a algebraic equation is far more uplifting and satisfying than spending a evening on the town. Sharing with others the softness of the horse’s gaze or the feeling of their nuzzle against their cheek is priceless. Even my memory does not lapse as often when thinking of what I do for others as opposed to what I have done for myself.

Don’t get me wrong, getting older is not easy.  But neither is life and that is OK.  If I slide downhill with gravity now and then, I know getting back to some vista is well worth the effort. And once back, I realize it is simpler to observe from a plateau than be at the bottom. I’ve discovered that I do not need to scale tall, ragged mountains, more like the older, softer Appalachian Hills to find reward and a spectacular view.

So this aging process is a curious thing and a tremendous gift. With age I am allowed to become more of who I am, than who I am meant to be and so I thank the Lord of age and wisdom for being an aging woman. 

Barbara is trained in the Equine Gestalt Coaching Method, a retired Professional Engineer and Qi Gong Instructor but mostly a woman who loves and listens to horses. Throughout her life the horses have helped her align with her inner compass for awareness, balance and clarity. Wayfinding With Horses, LLC, offers an experiential process where you can choose to move forward, heal and fully engage with life and Find the Wow in Now. Barbara lives with her husband, dogs, cats, horses and cows at Wayfinding Farm, located near Ocala Florida.  For more information about EGCMethod® coaching contact Barbara at Wayfindingwithhorses.com (WWH.biz).

Choosing to Trust

17 Monday Jul 2017

Posted by BB Harding - Wizard's Ventures, LLC in #EGCM, Living MultiDimensionally, Personal Growth, sagehood, Transitions, Vision

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I am in the process of house hunting.  By now, I have probably looked at close to a thousand pictures on sites like Zillow, Trulia and Realtor.com.  I have been on several days of house hunting-in-person expeditions.  It has been a process of discovery – I love long views, however not over miles of prairie – need some trees in there.    The big tubs that come with the master bathroom in so many houses are a waste of space, in my opinion.  Cupboard space is important; a gas stove is probably in order; open floor plan that allows for a lot of light is a key ingredient.  I am also clear that I don’t want to walk out the backdoor and be looking into my neighbors’ yards.  Having space around me is important.  I am looking in different areas of Northern New Mexico, so I am working with multiple realtors.  I have had to convey the point more than once that yes, there are physical criteria and a place may match those, however, rule number one is that the place has to feel good inside and out.  So, many a seemingly great house or great property has made it to the no column for that simple reason.

On the weekend of July 8, I saw a new listing come through on one of my drips, and notified the realtor that, if possible, I wanted to see it while we were out. He was able to arrange an appointment for that day’s journey.  Because of my schedule, we had limited time and several houses to cover.  This house was the last one on the day’s list.  It was a little more out of town than I really wanted, yet the drive wasn’t unpleasant. We drove up and it was obvious that the place would have a view.  Even though the property was on less than an acre, and there were neighbors to be seen, it felt nestled into the hillside.  There were trees on the perimeter of the property line, and a few on the property itself.  There was a nice dog yard with a couple of great dogs inside.  We walked inside and WOW.  Great open floor plan, the kitchen was large (one of my friends said I would never fill all the cupboards); gas fireplace; dining room, big living room, and then we came upon the master bedroom suite.  Spacious bathroom, spacious bedroom, spacious closet and the total OMG, an added sunroom that was configured as a sitting room.  (Of course, I said to myself, THE PERFECT OFFICE!!!).  Because of the time constraint, we hustled through.  As we drove back to where my car was parked, we arranged to come see the place in more depth the following day.  We had not been able to check out the garage, and I really wanted to take the house layout into account.  We went back again on Sunday, took our time, checked out the garage (an ideal man-cave, lots of lighting, an insulated attic and even a mini-wood stove and rock and mortar half-walls).  I walked the property, and bottom line, it felt good inside and out.  As we left, I told the realtor that I wanted to get some information on the cost of utilities and pending that, I was ready to make an offer.

The fact-finding mission revealed that utilities ran about $500 per month for electric, propane, internet, tv, alarm monitoring.  That was a budget breaker for me.  So, I made calls to utility companies for more information; and worked on decisions about what I could do without.  (TV immediately came off the list, as well as alarm monitoring, and hot tub – I don’t have any of those now, so knew I could live without them.)   I had shared the listing with a couple of friends of mine and the feedback was twofold – AWESOME house, and it seems kind of big for you.  (Over 2000 square feet).  Not to be deterred, I continued to work the numbers and see myself in the place.  This was THE place, I just had to figure out how to make it work.  I had seen a lot of candidates, many of them were great homes, and in this one, I felt good.  I REALLY liked this place.  I mean, REALLY liked this place.  That master bedroom suite and sunroom were to die for.

As I was both working the numbers, and sitting with the energy of the place (reviewed all kinds of paperwork), I became aware of the presence of what might be called a Niggling Doubt.  I sequestered it in the back of my consciousness.  After all, I didn’t want anything to interfere with my now dream home.  I was aware of how hard it had been to get to this point, and did not want to let this opportunity go for fear that there would not be another one.  (Indeed, coming from scarcity).  Eventually I gave in.  Coming to my senses, and determining that if I was truly going to walk the path of partnership with my Inner Wisdom and parts it was time to sit down with Niggling Doubt and see why it was there.  In the course of conversation, here is what came forth:  I would place all of my energy into the master bedroom suite (oh so very true – totally busted, score one for Niggling Doubt) and because I would do that, and because the other bedrooms were also located near the master, the energy would be concentrated on that side of the house to the detriment of the rest of the house.  Well, that was a point that I hadn’t taken into consideration.  The layout of the house would lend itself to a restricted “beaten path” exacerbating the lack of energetic flow to the remainder of the house.  Score two for Niggling Doubt.  Then there was another point that it brought up; one that I had pushed to the side – the other bedrooms were on the same side as the master bedroom.  In my imaginings, I had always seen them on the other side.  I had noted that while looking at the house, however, I was “willing to dismiss it and live with it.”  (Hey, you don’t get everything on your wish list!).  Apparently, Niggling Doubt was not in agreement with that decision.  My long-term plan is to be able to do some in-depth retreats with individual clients.  Niggling Doubt felt it was important to have a safe energetic space for both the retreatant and myself. All right, already; score three for Niggling Doubt.

I wish I could say that at this point I gracefully saw the wisdom in all of this, let it go, called the realtor and chose to move on.  In reality, I had a few issues to deal with, the most prevalent of which is “why do I always have to let things I want go?” or “why can’t I have what I want,” etc.  Yes, indeed, there were a few tears shed, and a little bit of a pity party.  I finally came to peace with it all. I recognized that I am always at choice, and of course I could choose to go ahead and purchase the place, or I could choose to trust that another place even more suited to me will appear.  (Did I mention that I really, really, really liked this place?).  I came to understand that this house is beautiful and it deserves to have owners that will fill it to the brim with their energetic presence.  It was a big ask for me to step into trusting the universe to deliver something equally as good or even better, especially when something really good was practically in my hands.  There were the thoughts about will I regret not buying the place?  Will I truly be able to manifest something equally as good or better?  And, I consciously chose to trust. Breathe in, breathe out.  Trust.

(BTW, as I was completing my letting go process, the house went under contract on Thursday)

How can you expand your ability to trust?  In what area of your life would it be a big ask to let go and trust that a better outcome was available?

BB is a True Purpose(r) coach working with women in their 50’s and older finding the new meaning in their lives and learning to move into the trust that they are safe and can be sustained if they follow their own Inner Wisdom.  For more information, contact BB at bb@wizardsventures.com or 720-378-4961.

Candor With Kindness

17 Monday Apr 2017

Posted by JocelynHastie in #EGCM, #EGCMethod, #TouchedbyaHorse, balance, Coaching, Living MultiDimensionally, Personal Growth

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I had a difficult summer. The company I worked for since 2003 closed down without notice (or severance pay). A week later, the horse that had been my partner in the show ring, EGC coaching and my own journey through advanced stage cancer required me to step up and release him from the frail body that could no longer contain his massive spirit. I needed to find a new way to show up in the world, without the security blanket of a job that didn’t suit me, and without the quiet presence that had been a major source of my comfort (and frustration) for 22 years.

I thought cancer diagnosis and treatment had taught me resilience. It turned out I had more lessons to learn. I am beginning to accept that the classroom never closes. I have struggled to find out where I belong. I have done lots of research, laid lots of “track”, and yet nothing seemed to be gelling into something that would work for me and allow me to make the difference in the world I intend to.

I woke up in the middle of the night a couple of weeks ago with the concept I’m now putting together as keynotes, workshops and seminar series. “Candor With Kindness” is the concept that I will be teaching. These days, it seems that the balance between honesty and empathy is often strained. I knew the title, and I knew what “candor” stood for.

The CAN goes together, of course. Caring, Acceptance and Nurturance. Acceptance is beyond tolerance – it is welcoming the other.

The D is for dedication. Dedication both to one another and to identifiable, shared goals.

The O is for observation and objectivity – developing the ability to lift ourselves out of the emotion and witness what is happening.

The R is for respect. This is the foundation, the fundamental requirement on which everything rests. The respect must be mutual, and comprehensive. Respect for oneself, and for others.

The development of these programs is nearing completion. I am passionate about getting the message out. I am teaching that which I am most eager to learn. I feel divinely guided in sharing these concepts. Things feel like they’re coming together. And I’m feeling much better, thank you!!

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